Forgive and Forget? Never!
“I asked you to forgive me!” When someone says, “please forgive me” there is an implied resolution, “My part is over. I have confessed, and now it’s up to you to reciprocate with forgiveness.”
Aware – Acknowledge – Move Forward in love and kindness is a path I have found healthy and successful. Fantasy says, “Forgive and forget” implying we truly forget about it, as if it never happened. The reality is, we don’t forget. We either hang on to the offense, sometimes with bitterness and anger, or we can remember for good and productive reasons.
I don’t want to forget the pain others have caused and I certainly don’t want to forget the pain I’ve caused others. I want to remember so I do not do it again. I want to remember the words and actions that hurt so I can avoid them and replace them with positive words and actions. I want to remember how it felt when something happened to me, so I recognize the hurt in others, reach out in true empathy and share hard won battles with thoughts and emotions.
We experience hurt and frustration. We are aware. We acknowledge the true hurt and pain we have caused and been subject to from others. We move forward in love and kindness, using our memory to guide future choices resulting in healthier, more fulfilling lifestyles.
Aware – Acknowledge – Move Forward in love and kindness.
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